I chanced upon this article because I do encounter such fear recently. What I learnt help best is to be happy and to enjoy the time spent with them tremendously and dont wait until it's too late. I will seize the day I have with my loved ones and stop bickering about the little stuff. When I get anxious and fear myselfing losing that someone I love, I try to write all the happy things we spent together and are going to spend together.
It helps! Try to think positive as much as you can :. For many months now, I have extreme fear of losing my mum and the life I'm having now. My dad passed away for around 7 years and now I only have my mum and elder brother. I don't have a best friend and my mum has been my main pillar of support for every event of my life.
I really feel like I will die without her, even as I'm typing this now. I feel suffocated and have a very uncomfortable feeling around my chest just thinking about it. I will always feel like crying and even throwing up sometimes.
Some may say if I can get pass my dad's death, I can get over this as well. But no, I know it will definitely be different from losing my dad. My dad was rather irresponsible; he smoked and slept at home all day, my mum even had to pay for his expenses apart from all the food and bills.
There was a time my dad even beat my mum and brother after a quarrel over money. I definitely have a lot of resentment towards my dad, but still I took a very long time to get over his death. If that's the case, I'm not sure if I could even survive without my mum, who sacrifice so much for the family. Right now, my mum is almost 60 but still works as a house cleaner 7 days a week to support our family since my brother is in the uni now. I'm currently working full time but my salary is not that much to support the whole family and the best I could do is reduce my mum's burden by giving her a huge portion of my salary.
I will also help to do as much chores as I could to reduce her work loads. However, I feel like no matter what I do, I will still lose her sooner or later. By the time me and my brother could finally repay her, the time is going to be extremely limited. When I see that my mum is getting so much older and weaker, it just breaks my heart. I know I shouldn't be so negative and should be cherishing all the moments I have with my love ones instead of griefing over the loss of it in advance, and if I focus so much on the bad things I will not be able to enjoy anything at all but I couldn't help it.
Whenever we are having a good time, I will always thought of it ending, and true enough, it ends. That greatly contributed to my fear and now this fear has really taken over my life. Each passing day is like a nightmare to me, and it's bringing me closer to the end of happiness by force. I can't sleep at night with all these thoughts of losing.
I want to stop that, which is why I'm reading this article and many others related to this issue but it didn't seem to help me. I really want to live a normal life like how I used to and enjoy every single day of my life, without having the constant fear that is haunting me now.. I know how do u feel. I live in this constant fear of losing my dad, my mom n my brother. I am so dependent on them it feels like I'm gonna die if I lose em. My parents are not from a really rich family background they worked hard to provide us a better life.
My dad is getting old n live in this constant fear of losing him it's like I would completely break apart if something like that happens. Even now when I am writing this I can't stop crying I'm just working hard for them so that I could repay them with all those things that they provided us with. Even now when I am writing this reply I couldn't stop crying. When I am with them I'm all happy and smiling but when I'm alone I just couldn't stop thinking about this thing that I would lose them someday and I have no clue what would I do when it will actually happen.
I don't really get attached to anybody else only because of this reason I don't get indulge into relationships only because of this reason. I have had fear of loosing my near n dear ones from when i was a kid. These days its started to bother me a lot. I am afraid if something might happen to them when they r travelling or going somewhere with other people. I dont fear my death but i am more worried if something would happen to them. Every time i hear about a death , I tend to imagine myself in that situation and start to worry a lot.
It takes away half my happiness and am always worried. I have no idea how to overcome this fear. Im in a relationship of 7 month with my bf we love wach other i had a night out where i was drunk msg d my ex bf felt so guilty told my bf he was very understanding but since im having anexiety and panic attacks bas thoughts i dont wana lose my bf but in same time as hes far away i m afraid to see him and know that this love is gone , confused of having any feeling left to my ex which is never truly had and im the one who ended it plz help what is that im having horrible panic attacks.
My bf and I moved very quickly in our relationship,. We haven't even been together 4 months I've had so much pain and he's been here with me through it all. I think the craziness is what made our relationship move on. The thing is, all of the craziness is making me feel like he might want to run. How do I mange these feelings? Should I express my fears to him? I am afraid of losing my family. This fear started about two years ago. Now, even thinking that my big sister is gojng to marry and leave us bring me to tears. It's not about death anymore. But I'm sure that death is the biggest problem.
Thinking about how my grandma is so old, and that she might die soon breaks me, literally. I unconsciously imagine dad after losing his mom and my aunts as well, I imagine grandma's siblings after the loss. And the greater, I put myself in that time, like, imagine what would it feel like if she actually died.
I don't know if my words make sense, but this fear is just becoming unbearable. Am tabitha i met this guy five months ago we started chatting and became soo close but afraid of meeting him gave many excuses cz i was afraid and did trust him fully cz of my past experiences though he was so sweet and good to me , so i devide to visit him and and had a good time there was a strong connection between us.
Later i told him i lied so he got so mad at me that didnt want to see me does text me or call what can i do am depressed angry at myself inreally want him back. I have a boyfriend. It made me so sad as he never trust me. Patrick Spruill. If you're focusing on being scared of losing him then you've already lost him.source link
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Focus on keeping him repairing what you have broken but if he doesn't trust you then maybe it's time for you both to move on because for love to work it has to be based on a secure foundation.. Even I have same fear of loss of my parents from my childhood.. I thought am the only person thinking like that.. I don't deal well with death of loved ones. I just had to put my much loved 14 to 15 year old cat to sleep due to health problems I didn't see comming and I feel like I'm having bad anxiety and blaming myself for her death.
I don't think I will cope with my mothers death. She is in her 60's I depend on her for so much. I'm scared to die and scared to see loved ones die. I can't cope. My boyfriend is afraid of loosing me and it's driving me nuts. I love him and although I tell him and show him, he is still afraid. I do not agree that showing me more and telling me more, will help him.
It will only drive me even more nuts. Too many, that I am afraid he will regret it later. I believe the best thing to do is learn to relax and accept that you may loose the person, but it's not the end of the world. Don't make him or her the centre of your life. Keep busy if she or he is busy. Anyway, my 2 cents. Hi Jodi sinc the age of 15 I have had major issues with the death of family members I have been on anti depressants since the age of 15 I am now 32 and have a young son.
I have always struggled with the anguish of death but since I've had my son it has amplified ten fold! I have dreams of his death and other vile things happening to him that I'm powerless to stop I feel utterly useless and terrified all of the time to the point where I don't sleep through sheer fear I see a councillor and have upped my dosage of anti depressant but nothing works there is so much wrong with the world and I feel like I'm going mad thinking of ways to keep him safe and me sane.
I want to thank you for bravely sharing. I lost my sister to suicide when I was It devasted me, but at the time I could not see how much more devasted my parents were. I am now 42 and the loss still haunts me. I have a young daughter and like you, I often feel so much fear of losing her.
It terrifies me. She is my whole world. My husband had a nightmare some months ago that she died and I am haunted my that. I am now expecting another child, 7 weeks pregnant. I'm probably the oldest lady in my town to have another child. And I realize I partly wanted a second child to feel less vulnerable, but it has in fact made me more vulnerable. To love is terrifying but then I think, it's what makes my life beautiful at the same time.
I don't know what to say to help, but I wanted to share my story and hope that it will bring comfort to know you are not alone in this fear of loss. I felt comforted in this way by your post and I thank you for sharing. Jerry B. Thank you for this post. My fear of losing someone I love is centered around my parents. I have 2 half brothers and a half sister all of whom are older than me and who have their own children and grandchildren. I'm 43, my mom is 73 and my dad is They are divorced since I was 10 years old and I live with my Dad two hours away drive time from my Mom.
I love both of them dearly. Not only have I overcome the health issues thanks to great healthcare and wonderful caring parents, but I have also quit smoking cigarettes and several other bad habits I had. It seems that now that I am coming out of that clouded period of time, I feel the joy of being reborn, but at the same time I realize how desperately I need my Dad and Mom. Not for financial support, but emotional support.
I have no spouse or children, and probably never will at this point. I don't want to exist on this planet without my parents. They know how to soothe my anxieties and their voice has the power to resolve all my mental problems. Yet, knowing that they will leave this earth before I will has me periodically worried to death about them.
I'm not sure about that, but it seems to fit the pattern. It's not every year, just some years. Especially now, my Mom's oldest brother my favorite uncle just had a stroke and is recovering. He was a picture of health prior to this. His wife, my favorite aunt, died in after breaking her back while also having liver cancer. I'm still not fully over that loss. I love my family so much. They are magnificent people, yet I am so far away from most of them. My Dad and I moved to our current city 21 years ago. I've lived half my life here, 2 hours away from the rest of my large extended family.
All I want to do now is spend all my time with my Mom and Dad. Reconnect to all my family. I also had to resign from my last job to deal with my health issues because it was my job which led me to bad behaviors drinking lots of soda and other things for energy to do 4 people's jobs by myself which caused my health issues.
Now I'm here at home alone, scared, tired of being alone, wanting to turn around and see my non-existent spouse who should have been with me my whole life by now, see our non-existent children who I'm too old to father at this point, and know that I have done what my life was created to do. But since that is not possible, I see a world that is unfamiliar to me, though it barely ever changes. I lost my grandmother in My grandfather in My other grandmother my mom's mom died when I was in 7th grade and I never knew her husband, my mom's father.
I just don't want to be without my Mom and Dad. I won't know what to do with my life without coming home from work to see my Dad, and calling my Mom to see how she and the rest of the family is doing. What will my life be for without love? I don't know how to deal with this anxiety, though I have experienced anxiety my whole life. I don't want to lose my parents. We have same sentiments. Losing our parents is the hardest.
I lost my dad during 8th grade. And my mom is now 65 with health issues. I randomly feel fear anytime of the day thinking losing her. Just want you to know you are not alone. I am 17 and a senior in highschool. Today we lost a kid at my school that I didn't know well- he was in a dirt bike accident. I didn't like him and he isn't the point of this.
I never would have thought he was going to die and it made me realize how scared I am to lose anybody around me. It made me realize that anybody can die at any point in my life and I don't get a say and it's really messing with my head. I have an ex friend and girlfriend whom I still love very much even after a year of not talking. I'm still so scared I'm gonna have to live in a world where she does not exist one day. I'm scared I won't ever get to see her again- I don't want to live where she is not.
I always want to make sure she is okay and she is happy and I don't want her to die. I don't know what to do because I cannot live in a fear of losing someone I've already lost the rest of my life. I'm so scared. I am very glad i bump on this site! Thank heavens i found some people who faces the same scenario that i have. I am in a very happy relationship rigjt now.. I never felt this happiness that it scares me always or out of nowhere i feel like something bad will happen to him.
Im too happy and inlove to the point it's scaring me! I even wanted to buy some medicine to help me get over this. It's been 2months i am loke this especially we juat traasfered now in a different country and i only have him! I kept on oraying and pryaing that i hope i can go back to my old self. I know this is a very old post but i just felt like i really want to post this as well!
Thanks hope after reading this i will feel much better! A very topical subject to everyone. Great contribution. Hello everyone. I'm 18 years old and I think I also have a mental problem. I have such a lovely girlfriend for 2 years now, we have been happy for the entire period of time except a few months in a row due to a health problem. Im very attached to her she is a little less to me and I fear that I might lose her. I'm a jealous person in a weird way I'd be the happiest if she was only mine, if she talks, goes out or do other normal things with her friends I get kind of angry and also I'm afraid because I don't know what's going on there.
This jealousy causes harm to our relationship I'd say and I'd love to deal with it better because it just takes over me and I'm not able to do a thing. Lately, I've had a wrist injury and I can't really do much, only study and be with her, and it's been driving me crazy, sad and sometimes depressed. I just need her around me so I can be happy. And for the last month or so I've been worrying I could lose her. This feeling comes out of nowhere I think, everything fine between us if I'm not acting jealous.
To summarize I love her so very much and I've been jealous everytime she's been out without me, I can't really deal with it, lately I've been worrying I could lose her because that would be unimaginable for me. I would be greatful for any sort of mental help, tips and advice what should I do everytime she's out with friends. Also to make me more comfortable and lose the fear of losing her. Thank you, Daniel. I have a boyfriend exactly like you. It made me so sad as he never trust me that I love him so much.
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No matter how I explain he still feel the same Ever since I was a little girl now 28 I would randomly have nightmares of one of my parents dying, one dream of my father who loves his motorcycle sticks out in my mind, I remember waking up screaming for my mom and just balling my eyes out hysterically believing my dream was real. These dreams continued randomly up until this point. I am now a single mom of two and the fear of losing one of my kids, my parents or my brother makes me sick to my stomach.
I cannot handle it, I imagine myself in bed not sleeping or eating for days. On the edge of life myself from grief and overwhelming pain. I am also one of those people who will get out of bed in the middle of the night to make sure my children are still breathing. Sometimes it's bearable and I can push the thoughts from my mind, other times they at overwhelming and terrifying.
Reading these stories and telling my own has me crying uncontrollably, I'm sad I'm not alone and glad all at the same time. Thank you everyone for sharing your stories and your ways of coping with these thoughts.
Due to the unexpected loss of my father my senior year in high school I have lived with the anxiety of losing everyone around me. I distanced myself from my father's parents the best grandparents a kid could ask for because they had him cremated before anyone could see him and left us without reasoning and closure. Here I am 5 long years later and after losing my mother's father my other grandfather I am just finding out my dad's dad has cancer again for the 4th time.
My grandparents have been together so long that if one loses their fight.. My day to day life and emotions leave me overwhelmed, full of anxiety, hate, and depression and at times I question why people were even put on earth. I have an 8 month old son, who I love dearly and I feel he shouldn't see his mother crying and an emotional mess some days. Some days I can't even get off the couch unless I force myself.
I just feel a heavy weight on my shoulders every day because I never know when the next person will leave my life unexpectedly. But what if i can't tell the person that im afraid to loss that 'i love you'!!?!? We sat quietly instead. Im tired of this. Meanwhile, even tough this things are happening we still hold hands. I dont know what to do. My husband was diagnosed with a tough cancer. He underwent a grueling chemo but has been in remission for 7 months now.
He's so brave, so strong. We have been married 45 years. We have a son who has been battling the effects of a benign brain tumor for 26 years now, our only child. I was so devastated when my husband was diagnosed. He really has been my rock. He has seen me through my tears of our sweet son, my life support episode,a broken leg, a hip replacement and my knee replacement. He has gone on and said he's not worried at all. He's so sweet and loving to me and helps me so much since I have a hard time walking.
I SO fear losing him.
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